The 11th House is meant to be a safe, supportive, fun, and inclusive space. In order to do our best to ensure that the space holds those values, I have outlined some ground rules & community agreements that must be agreed to in order to join. 

When you enter the space, you agree to these community agreements. These agreements ensure that everyone has the right to a space where they feel their contributions have worth, are comfortable sharing their needs, assert their boundaries, and develop their agency. This is an evolving practice we use to cultivate equity, community, and wellness when we convene as a group. It is essential that the entire community works together to uphold these agreements and can step in to support one another when issues arise. 

Community Agreements

Community agreements are working documents in continuous development and will be regularly reviewed and up for modification with all community members. Members are accountable to each other and the community at large and are responsible for direct and open communication, transparency, and how we share and distribute power. 

EVERY VOICE IS IMPORTANT

Make space, take space. Regardless of age, experience, title, etc. we all have something to contribute!

AVOID ASSUMPTIONS

In this space, we make room to learn about others at a pace that is comfortable for them and respect that. We will not make assumptions about how people identify (race, gender, orientation, background) or about their lived experiences. 

NO ONE KNOWS EVERYTHING; TOGETHER WE KNOW A LOT

In any conversation, we know that members are coming to the conversation with different levels of lived experience and embodied expertise. Astrology takes lifetimes to master and nobody ever knows everything. 

We also believe that each member has something to contribute to the conversation. This agreement asks that we all practice being humble, and look for what we have to learn from each person in the room. It asks us to share what we know, as well as our questions, so that others may learn from us.

SPEAK FROM THE “I”. 

Speak from your own lived experiences and feelings.

STORIES STAY, LESSONS GO

Honor confidentiality. No recording, no screengrabs.  Share lessons learned beyond this group, but please do not share the personal stories of others.

MOVE AT THE SPEED OF TRUST

Most people are decently good and make honest mistakes. Believe everyone is coming from a place of love and giving each other grace. Lean into the trust that people are coming from a place of good intent.

STEP UP, STEP BACK

If you’re someone who tends to not speak a lot, please move up into a role of speaking more. If you tend to speak a lot, please move up into a role of listening more. Consider how identity might contribute to your tendency to take up space or remain quiet and act outside of conditioning.

DE-ACRONIZE AND TAKE VOCAB BREAKS

Let’s strive to make sure everyone is on the same page, including acronyms. If you need

something explained, or if you think we should break down a word, concept, or phrase, ask for it!

Ground Rules

• No harassment of any kind. Period! 

• Respect is everything.

• Acknowledge the difference between impact and intent. Do the self-reflection work to recognize that you might intend one thing but your impact is another; be open to feedback.

• Ask for help! If you feel challenged, or frustrated by an experience or community member, please speak up, whether it’s via email or asking for mediation from another community member to navigate a conflict. We resolve conflict by rising to the challenge of prioritizing relationships and believing that everyone here is capable of change if given the opportunity to do so. 

• Always ask for consent to provide critiques and/or feedback.

• Ask for consent before reaching out to people on their social platforms.

• Come from a place of curiosity!

• Prioritize questions. Avoid accusations.

• When in conversations in this space, always ask yourself: What can I learn from this?

• Be conscious of how much space you’re taking up within the spaces we inhabit together. We take up space and in that we create space for others. 

• Be generous with passing the mic, with listening, in the assumptions you make, what you can give or add to the conversation, and who you can make or hold space for. 

• One diva, one mic, but also be conscious of sharing the mic.

• Ask for consent from the group before sharing triggering content and post content warnings. Use your discretion when posting potentially triggering content, using extremely violent examples, sexually explicit words or images, etc

• Embrace mistakes. Refrain from demanding perfection of yourself and others.

• Take care of yourself so you can stay present.

Community Themes/Touchstones

• Generosity

• Respect

• Accountability

• Boundaries

• Confidentiality, Consent, Care, & Curiosity

• Embrace emergence. Embody integrity

• “I” Statements

• “Yes, and” statements

THIS SPACE DOES NOT TOLERATE:
Racism, sexism, homophobia, transphobia, antisemitism, bigotry, assholishness, bullying, and harassment of any kind. This space is committed to dismantling racism, sexism, and all forms of oppression in systems of power and our minds and hearts. That means we all have to continue to work to abolish the cop in our heads too! 

By entering this space, you agree to the community guidelines and ground rules.